Letting go...

Anyone out there who thinks letting go of a relationship is an easy process has undoubtedly never been in love. If you've ever told someone to "just get over it" or "stop dwelling on it", I have news for you...easier said than done my friend. You see the process of letting go does not just involve walking away from someone and jumping in bed with the next appealing person that catches your eye. Letting go means mentally and emotionally removing a person from your life. A person that once meant the world to you. A person with whom you've shared a million kisses, a thousand hugs and countless memories. A person who was by your side when you woke up suddenly from a bad dream at night. A person who kissed away your tears even when you tried your hardest not to cry in front of them. A person with whom you shared the type of laughter that made you feel like cheeks were going to burst. A person whose arms felt like iron gates, that once wrapped around you and made you feel like nothing in this world could possibly harm you. A person who you grew with and eventually grew apart from.

Letting go is probably the hardest thing a person can possibly do in this life. I used to be ashamed about admitting that I was in a relationship that failed. I felt like I had to act like I was strong enough to hold down any man and make it last no matter what. I'm now wise enough to know that you can't change people and more importantly, you can never change the plans that God has for you. I am not ashamed to have lost because I loved. I loved with every piece of my heart and soul. There's no better feeling in this world than having someone to share your love with, and because of this, I have no regrets. I still love. I will always love. I am grateful for the time we shared together and I am thankful for what I learned from our relationship. When I cry, it's because in essence, a part of me has died but in reality that part will live forever as memories in my heart. All good things must eventually come to an end, and the end brings on beautiful new beginnings. I look forward to learning more and loving again.

LETTING GO TAKES LOVE

To let go does not mean to stop caring, it means I can't do it for someone else.
To let go is not to cut myself off, it's the realization I can't control another.
To let go is not to enable, but allow learning from natural consequences.
To let go is to admit powerlessness, which means the outcome is not in my hands.
To let go is not to try to change or blame another, it's to make the most of myself.
To let go is not to care for, but to care about.
To let go is not to fix, but to be supportive.
To let go is not to judge, but to allow another to be a human being.
To let go is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes, but to allow others to affect their destinies.
To let go is not to be protective, it's to permit another to face reality.
To let go is not to deny, but to accept.
To let go is not to nag, scold or argue, but instead to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.
To let go is not to adjust everything to my desires, but to take each day as it comes and cherish myself in it.
To let go is not to criticize or regulate anybody, but to try to become what I dream I can be.
To let go is not to regret the past, but to grow and live for the future.
To let go is to fear less and love more and
To let go and to let God, is to find peace !

Remember: The time to love is short ------ author unknown